Who Is Malia Obama's Boyfriend?

Malia Obama began attending Harvard University in the fall of 2017. According to W Magazine, Obama had the gap year many college students could only dream of. She partied in Amsterdam, attended Lollapalooza in Chicago, and began her internship in New York City at Weinstein Company — thankfully now no longer run by Harvey Weinstein himself. Obama has also been spotted at clubs and hitting the streets of New York City with her bodyguards in tow. Though with her confidence and height of over six feet tall, Obama could probably handle her own!

As a student at Harvard University, where she enrolled in the fall of 2017 after that epic gap year, Obama got to know her classmates — and the city of Cambridge — a bit better. After a couple months of getting used to Harvard life, pictures of Obama with a mystery man began to surface, which begs the question — just who is this guy?

Meet Rory Farquharson

The Harvard-Yale football rivalry has been ongoing since the first game (then a rugby match) in 1875, when Harvard beat Yale 4-0. It is still widely celebrated each year on the date of the annual football game, by students and alumni from both schools the world over. So of course Obama got in on the Harvard-Yale action, and she wasn't alone. 

Shortly before Thanksgiving in 2017, TMZ released a video of Malia Obama briefly locking lips with someone while tailgating her very first Harvard-Yale football game. That's one way to kick off a game.

At that point in time, the press didn't know who this young man was. However, it didn't take long to figure it out. He's now known to be Obama's boyfriend, Rory Farquharson. Dating the former president's daughter doesn't exactly create the best opportunity for anonymity, but the couple seems to still be going strong regardless. Here's everything you should know about Farquharson.

He's a smoker

Now that her reported beau has been revealed, Malia Obama no longer has to hit the streets of New York City with just her bodyguards in tow. Just a few months after the Harvard-Yale game, Obama and Rory Farquharson were photographed smiling at one another while walking and talking in SoHo, New York City in January 2018. 

The two looked happy in the photos — yay! — but there was something disconcerting about what was revealed in them nonetheless. In virtually every picture from their outing, Farquharson can be seen with a cigarette in hand. 

Perhaps this isn't necessarily too surprising as an estimated one-third of college students smoke, according to ABC News. Either way, it's not exactly a healthy habit. It may also go without saying that the effects secondhand smoke are quite awful too! But hey, at least the lovebirds are also carrying around bottled water to stay hydrated, right?

Is Farquharson a bad influence on Obama?

Unfortunately, Malia Obama also seems to have developed the addictive smoking habit. Is Rory Farquharson a bad influence on Obama? Maybe, maybe not. There's really no telling who started smoking first, but pictures have confirmed that Obama was the first one seen with a cigarette. 

In an interview with Michelle Obama from 2012 reported by USA Today, she discussed Barack Obama's former smoking habit, saying, "I know that his ability to ultimately kick the habit was because of the girls, because they're at the age now where you can't hide. I think that he didn't want to look his girls in the eye and tell them that they shouldn't do something that he was still doing."

Whether she picked up the habit from her dad or developed a "social smoking" habit, it's hard to say. Either way, let's hope both the former first daughter and her boyfriend quit soon!

He went to Harvard

Whether or not you think of Rory Farquharson as a bad influence on the former president's daughter, there's no denying that he attended a good school. Like Malia Obama, Farquharson was a student at Harvard University, one of only eight Ivy League schools.

According to The Telegraph, this is likely where the lovebirds first met. Though Obama was a freshman in the 2017-2018 school year after taking her gap year, Farquharson — who is the same age as Obama — was a registered sophomore in the 2017-2018 academic year.

While at Harvard, Obama's interests centered around the arts. Farquharson, on the other hand, may be following in his father Charles' footsteps. Charles Farquharson obtained a law degree from Cambridge University and is now a chief executive at an investment firm in London. The Telegraph further reported that Farquharson followed quite a few banking-related accounts on Twitter so, if nothing else, the interest is there.

He's British

If you swoon over Brits, you aren't alone; it's no secret that most Americans love English accents. Malia Obama may be part of that majority, as her love interest just so happens to be British. 

The Telegraph reported that Rory Farquharson grew up across the pond and attended a private boarding school where he was a member of the chemistry club. He was also deemed "Head of School" during the 2015-2016 school year. Not only was Farquharson a bit of a brain, he was also a jock as he played both rugby and golf. So that's what the Harvard application takes.

Much like Obama, Farquharson also interned before attending Harvard University. As opposed to New York, he spent time in Northern Ireland at the Centre for Democracy and Peace Building. Obama's man definitely seems ambitious! Would you expect anything less from the daughter of the former President of the United States? Those are big shoes to fill.

He's fashionable

Sure, Rory Farquharson has the British accent that makes Americans weak in the knees, but does he have the look to pull off street chic? Of course! Vanity Fair claims that he and Malia Obama both have "mastered New York City street style."  

During his outing with Obama in SoHo, Farquharson was photographed in a puffy blue jacket, a basic gray tee, and dark pants, but all eyes were on his sunglasses — his tiny sunglasses. The popular '90s trend has been revitalized by the likes of Selena Gomez, the Kardashian and Jenner clan, Rihanna, and now, of course, Farquharson. Love 'em or hate 'em, if the Gen Zs are jumping on a trend, you're probably going to be seeing more of it.

Will Obama follow suit with a pair of tiny sunglasses all her own? Time will tell but, even if she doesn't, she's fashionable enough without them.

He deleted all of his social media accounts

It seems there is always a cost associated with dating a public figure. Page Six reported that since he began dating Malia Obama, Rory Farquharson deleted his social media. While you may be disappointed to learn that all of his social media accounts — aside from very few pictures on Facebook — have been wiped out, it is understandable given the scrutiny that comes with high-profile relationships. Just ask Meghan Markle.

According to ABC News, when her relationship with Prince Harry became serious, Markle deleted her blog, stopped sharing photos of her life on Instagram, and stepped away from Twitter. A royal source told ABC News, "Ms. Markle is grateful to everyone who has followed her social media accounts over the years." 

Although Farquharson is not set to become a duke nor prince, dating the former president's daughter is probably the closest you can get to the United States' version of royalty. 

Once upon a time he was a 'lanky, over-confident public school boy'

Rory Farquharson didn't mince words when it came time to write a letter to his 16-year-old self for his school's publication, Meteor. In it, he wrote, "You're a lanky, over-confident public school boy, desperately trying to prove to your friends how much of a 'lad' you are and have failed miserably." Ouch. He went on to tell himself to get a haircut because his "floppy mop" wasn't appealing to the ladies. Well, it seems he hasn't yet taken that advice, but, luckily for him, Malia Obama must not mind much. 

Farquharson's letter wasn't all mean. He advised himself to be open to change, stay true to himself, take responsibility for his own future, and care for his family and friends. "You'll have various relationships and constantly meet new people," he wrote, "You'll even spend time living abroad." Apparently Farquharson is stellar at predicting the future. Still, we bet he didn't think he'd end up dating one of President Obama's daughters!

The royals and the Farquharsons go way back

Just because Rory Farquharson is British, that doesn't mean he knows the queen, right? Well, he just might. You may already view Farquharson as quite the privileged young man, but, believe it or not, he also has links to the British royal family. 

As it turns out, Malia Obama's boyfriend is the second cousin of Andrew Farquharson, Express reported. Andrew had a lengthy career of working alongside the queen, first as her courtier and then as her Assistant Master of the Household at Buckingham Palace. Queen Elizabeth II even made him a member of her own order of chivalry — pretty cool, wouldn't you say? In 2006, Andrew took on a similar role for Prince Charles before being let go in 2009 due to, as Clarence House claimed, a "review of costs." Hmm. 

While his relative was working for the royal family, you have to wonder if Rory Farquharson ever got to meet the queen. 

What does President Obama think about his daughters dating?

In the past, President Obama has discussed his thoughts about his daughters growing up and dating. When asked in a telephone interview by ABC News, "What are you going to do when the girls start dating?" President Obama responded, "Oh ... that happened. You know, the truth is I'm pretty relaxed about it." 

Obama continued, "For two reasons, one is Michelle ... She's such a great example of how she carries herself, her self esteem, not depending on boys to validate how you look or, you know, not letting yourself be judged by anything other than your character and intelligence. And hopefully I've been a good example in terms of how I've shown respect to my wife so, I think, I don't worry about it because they're really solid smart girls — young ladies now." Obama then joked, "The other reason is because they've had Secret Service. There's only so much they can do!" 

Now that Obama is no longer president, is Malia still protected? The Washington Post explained that, by law, the U.S. Secret Service can offer protection to presidents' children up to ten years after leaving the White House, though it's unclear what the former president decided in terms of Malia's protection. Nevertheless, there's no doubt that most everyone — including her beau Rory Farquharson — will be looking out for her well-being.

Rory Farquharson is not a Trump supporter

Although Rory Farquharson was raised in the United Kingdom, he certainly still has his opinions on American politics. As Malia Obama's boyfriend, you'd have to assume his political leanings are Liberal rather than Conservative, right? Well, no matter his actual political affiliations, he's definitely not a fan of Donald Trump, if his one-time social media activity is any indication.

According to The Telegraph, Farquharson has shared his criticism of President Trump via social media in the past. At one time, Farquharson even retweeted a post that speculated Trump's popular appeal would decrease throughout the year after being elected — a statement echoed by many. 

If Farquharson had been a Trump supporter, dinners with the Obamas would have probably gotten a little awkward. That is, if the smoking — and Michelle Obama's probable feelings about it — weren't already awkward enough, ahem.

He's loaded

According to Harvard University's site, tuition is set at $54,768 for full-time students for the 2022-2023 school year. Add room and board, and you're up even more. While the Ivy League school accepts financial aid and has made headlines for the far-reach of its financial aid initiative in recent years, Harvard definitely seems to favor the rich. Rory Farquharson is no exception.

Rugby School, the prestigious boarding school that he attended in England, costs £11,584 ($14,339) per term, according to The Telegraph. Not exactly chump change, to be sure. The Telegraph also reported that the home where Farquharson spent much of his childhood is a £1.6 million ($2.27 million) house in Martlesham, Suffolk. That isn't the family's only abode, however, as the publication also notes a Farquharson home in London.

With a son at Harvard, an executive father, and a mom who is both an accountant and a lay person for London's Upper Tribunal, the Farquharson family seems to be doing quite well financially.

He quarantined with the Obamas

The Obama house was a full one in the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic and became even fuller with a new addition — Malia's boyfriend, Rory Farquharson. While appearing on The Bill Simmons Podcast, her dad, Barack, shared that they took in Malia's British boyfriend and the entire family — including Michelle, Sasha, and Malia — quarantined together for a time.

"There was this whole visa thing, he had a job set up, and so we took him in," Obama shared on the podcast, adding, "And I didn't want to like him, but he's a good kid." While quarantining, Obama shared that he played card games with his daughters and Malia's boyfriend. And while everything went smoothly, for the most part, Obama said he was surprised by Farquharson's healthy appetite. "The only thing you discover ... [is] young men eat," Obama shared, adding, "It's weird to watch them consume food. And my grocery bill went up about 30 percent" (via Daily Mail). 

It seems like Farquharson fits in very nicely with the former first family.

Michelle Obama confirmed that Malia 'brought home' a boyfriend

Michelle Obama loves seeing her daughters all grown up. A fact highlighted when her oldest, Malia, brought her boyfriend home to meet mom and dad, former president Barack. 

"Being with them as adults, it's fun," she shared on "The Ellen DeGeneres Show" in April 2022, adding, "They loved the Jonas Brothers. Now they're bringing grown men home. Before it was just pop bands, now they have boyfriends and real lives." Obama didn't mention Malia's boyfriend, Rory Farquharson, by name during the TV appearance.

Besides having a boyfriend, Malia is making moves as an adult, living in Los Angeles and working as a member of the writing staff of a Donald Glover-led Amazon project, as reported by the Daily Mail. Her sister Sasha also lives there. There's no word yet on whether or not Farquharson has or will move to LA to be with Malia.