The Real Reason These Stars Never Got Married

Marriage isn't for everyone. After all, if Brangelina couldn't make it work, who could? Still, that doesn't mean that avoiding putting a ring on it means a lack of commitment or that these stars will die alone and miserable. In fact, for a lot of celebs, the opposite is true. Celebs are just normal people, (sort of) like the rest of us, and that means not all of them want the same things. These single stars and couples haven't gone down the aisle, and that's just fine with them. 

Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn have been together for 33 years and have a son, Wyatt Russell, together — but they've never tied the knot. Hawn — who was previously married to actor Bill Hudson and dancer Gus Trikonis — explained her reason to Loose Women, saying, "I would have been long divorced if I got married. If you need to be bound to someone, then it's important to be married. If you are independent, it's important to not be married."

"[Russell and I] like the choice and we chose to stay," she continued. "We're always asked why we are not married. Why? What is marriage going to do for us? At the beginning, you want to see each other all the time. Then you get jealous when they're gone too long and that's exciting. But for a healthy long-term relationship, then 68 percent of the time [together] is good."

Despite having three kids and spending nearly a decade together, Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick never married. Why? Because, for a reality starlet, Kardashian claims to not want all the attention on her.

"A wedding terrifies me," she confessed to Cosmopolitan. "I like tradition; I don't have anything against that. I think it's more fear of walking down the aisle in front of all those people. I don't like being the center of attention," she said. "I mean, Scott and I have talked about it many times over the years. The situation was never right. But I don't think we would've done a big wedding—we would've done something really small, just us and our kids."

Their split in July 2015, which was spawned by Disick getting cozy with another woman, seemed to be the last straw. But alas, it wasn't. Over the next couple of years, the on-again-of-again couple continued to have drama after drama, as Cosmopolitan outlines in a handy timeline. The odds of them permanently reconciling, let alone ever walking down the aisle, seem like well below zero.

Diane Kruger and Joshua Jackson were together for more than a decade before their split in July 2016, and it appears to be that her hesitance to commit may have been the cause of their relationship's demise. Kruger revealed to the Edit in March 2016 that it took her almost ten years just to move in with the Dawson's Creek alum. 

"I just moved this week. I need to unpack and buy some house stuff, like candles and books," she said (via E! News). "[Moving here] was a major commitment. That's a big step into adulthood for me, to allow that time for someone else out of my time." When asked if she'd marry Jackson, she replied, "Welcome to my dilemma." Adding to the dilemma? The New York Daily News reported that Kruger may have cheated on Jackson with her Sky co-star Norman Reedus in the summer of 2016.

Jackson previously offered his own explanation of why he and Jackson never wed to Glamour in November 2014. "I can tell you why we're not married: we're not religious," he told the mag. "I don't feel any more or less committed to Diane for not having stood in front of a priest and had a giant party. We're both children of divorce, so it's hard for me to take marriage at face value as the thing that shows you've grown up and are committed to another person."

Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling have two daughters together and have been together since 2011. There were rumors in September 2016 that they married in secret, but the couples' reps shot down those tales. Still, why haven't they actually tied the knot? They already feel like they did. "Eva and Ryan have always felt like a married couple," a source told Us Weekly. "They are infatuated with each other."

Mendes, who was previously married to Peruvian filmmaker George Augusto for a decade, told the Telegraph, "If we go back to the origin of marriage, it was very unromantic. It was about land, basically. It was about ownership. So I think it's a kind of unromantic idea. When I look around and see the emphasis people put on getting married and weddings, I think, wait a second, what does this really mean?"

Gosling made it clear that he is 100 percent committed to Mendes, ring or not. He told Hello! magazine, "I know that I'm with the person I'm supposed to be with. ... [the only quality I look for in a woman] is that she's Eva Mendes. There's nothing else I'm looking for." Swoon.

Sarah Silverman told Ellen DeGeneres (via People) that she doesn't want to get married until gay marriage is legal everywhere, despite being happy in a relationship with Michael Sheen at the time. "I just don't understand the instinct to want to join a club that is elitist," she said. "I mean, it's like joining a country club that doesn't allow Jews or black people. What's the difference?" She added, "And besides that I don't know that I would want to get the government involved in my love. Personally."

Of course, considering the Supreme Court made same-sex marriage legal in America just a few weeks after her interview, it's possible we might see Silverman tied the knot sometime in the future. Just probably not with Sheen, as they broke up during the 2017 holiday season. 

John Cusack has a colorful dating history, which has featured pairings with Claire Forlani, Janice Dickinson, Lili Taylor, Gina Gershon, Melissa Gilbert, Alison Eastwood, Neve Campbell, Jodi Lyn O'Keefe, Jennifer Love Hewitt, Alexandra Kerry, Brooke Burns, and Uma Thurman. Phew! So why didn't he settle down with any of these beauties? He told Elle simply, "Society doesn't tell me what to do." Well, there you go.

Sheryl Crow explained to Good Housekeeping that she's been engaged three times (she was once set to marry professional cyclist Lance Armstrong) but she never married for a good reason. "Hey, I would love to get married — I'm still old-fashioned. But I don't think marriage is the be-all and end-all. It's better to have three broken engagements than three divorces." 

She added, "I had always gone out with guys who were highly successful, which would seem like it would put me at an equal level. But what ends up happening is that one of you becomes smaller—and it was always me. It's always the woman. I mean, I don't know if it's always the woman, but I do think that sometimes in order for one person's light to shine, everyone else has to dim theirs." 

Still, despite all that, she's open to marriage. In 2017, she told People, " I don't think you have to be married to have a wonderful relationship. I definitely date and have had some good relationships — we'll see what happens!"

Unlike her Sex and the City character, Kristin Davis has never been married — and she doesn't plan to get hitched in the future. Speaking to Haute Living in 2013, the actress, who noted that she is very independent, shared that she remembered "being young and thinking, 'Why are all these people getting married?'"

Davis recalled believing she'd never get hitched when she in her 20s, even though many people around her were super into the idea of marriage. "I grew up in the South so all everyone talked about was marriage," she told People. "But all I wanted was to move to New York and do theater. And in my thirties, I was busy doing the show so I just didn't have time."

These days, Davis is busy being a mother to two children, a boy and a girl. And, at the time of this writing, it doesn't seem as though she'll be walking down the aisle anytime soon, seeing as she doesn't even appear to be in a relationship (at least none that's been made public).

Shonda Rhimes, who's well known as the showrunner of ABC series like Grey's Anatomy and Scandal, never intends to marry. And that's because she's just never wanted to. She admitted as much during Oprah Winfrey's SuperSoul Sunday on OWN in 2015. "I'm one of those people, since I was 5, I could tell you I was going to have kids. I could tell you I was going to have three. I could tell you they were going to be girls," Rhimes told Winfrey. "But I have never wanted to get married. I never played bride. I was never interested. I don't know what it is; I never wanted to get married."

Rhimes, a mother of three daughters (as predicted), does like dating though. "I love having boyfriends," she shared, but, she added, "I do not want a husband in my house." You have to respect that she knows what she wants... and what she doesn't.