Having a child at any age is a big decision and there are lots of things to consider, but every person I spoke with stressed the need for self-awareness and being ready, whatever that means to you. Kim Overton is proof that even if you're single, in your mid-30s, and struggling with infertility, it can happen. "For any woman who is single and 35, just open your mind and your heart and don't give up wanting what you want no matter what people say. If you want a child, there's a way to do it. Don't get discouraged," she told me. "It's not going to look the way we thought when we were young girls and that's okay. The love that we have with our kids is just amazing and it came about in a very different way, but it's exactly what I wanted. I'm a mom, and that's what matters." Overton found support in a group called Single Mothers by Choice and in her close friends who understood her journey. Whether you're thinking of having a baby or actively trying, there is a lot to consider, but there are a lot of people who can help.