Surprising Things Guys Find Unattractive

You may think that loading up on foundation, concealer, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, and blush (to name a few) makes you look your most attractive, but it may surprise you to learn that piling on the makeup is not appealing to guys. In fact, a study in The Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology revealed that women tend to overestimate the amount of makeup that men find attractive, and, as a result, many women end up applying way too much. In other words, you may choose to wear a lot of makeup because you think it draws men toward you, but, in reality, it's actually warding them off. With this in mind, it's time to face the fact (so to speak) that less is truly more when it comes to makeup's role in attraction, and it's in your best interest to opt for a natural look as opposed to caking it on for the guy you're sweet on. Too much makeup is apparently just unattractive to many guys.

It might seem fun to share the latest rumors, scandals, and stories involving the lives of your friends, family, and coworkers with a guy, but it might surprise you to learn that being a gossip is a major turn off. While your intentions may be to try to open the lines of communication with him and keep him in the loop, it's important to recognize that giving him the lowdown on other people's sordid deeds actually makes you come across as having low self-esteem. In fact, many people with a poor self-image rely on gossip as a way to make themselves feel better about their own lives, and they choose to talk about the latest failures and scandalous behaviors of others as a way to give themselves a boost. 

If you're looking to attract men, you should keep in mind that guys are drawn to women who are confident, who value themselves, and who don't put others down as a way to lift themselves up. So the next time you're dying to dish to him about all of your friend's dirty laundry, you should choose to clean up your act instead. Otherwise, it's just unattractive to most guys.

While having high self-esteem is a quality that men find highly attractive in women, it's important to understand that there's a fine line between being confident and being conceited. And while you should definitely believe in yourself, be proud of your accomplishments, and be happy about what you have to offer, you should also keep in mind that showing off is a major turn off. Specifically, research has shown that people who boast about themselves don't even recognize the full extent of the negative response they receive from others. 

Although you may assume that your self-proclaimed awesomeness is attracting men, having a huge ego and acting like a narcissist are actually huge mistakes. Alternatively, you should opt for humility and be secure enough in yourself that you don't have to rely on arrogance to get a gent, as the right man won't need you to constantly reinforce just how amazing you truly are — he'll see it on his own.

You may think that bad-mouthing your ex around a new guy is a good decision, but this kind of negative behavior actually makes you look bad instead. While your intentions may be to show a guy how much you're over your last beau and that he has nothing to worry about when it comes to living up to the men you've been with previously, constantly criticizing your ex isn't attractive. After all, not only does your need to put down your ex make you come across as spiteful and juvenile, but your unrelenting fixation on your ex makes it seem as though you're still harboring feelings for him. 

Furthermore, bad-mouthing your ex also shows any potential love interest that he could be next when it comes to being the subject of your hateful words. So rather than talking smack about your ex and venting about all the ways he wronged you, leave the past in the past so you can attract Mr. Right in the future.

It's important that you speak your mind and that you stand up for yourself if you are ever in a situation that makes you feel marginalized. That being said, it can be really unattractive if you seem addicted to drama and go out of your way to be mean to others.

You might think you're showing off by engaging in a catfight, but you run the risk of looking petty and immature. There's a big difference between acting like a juvenile girl and an emotionally secure woman in charge of a situation — and your man will definitely take notice. If you want to impress him by beating out the competition, train for a marathon, get that promotion at work, or commit to being your best self. Put your best assets on display without needing to put anyone down.

When it comes to attracting men, it's important to recognize that men want to feel as though they're needed. Specifically, men want to know that they add value to your life and that they're not superfluous, expendable, or disposable. However, many women mistakenly interpret a man's desire to feel needed by becoming overly needy, jealous, and desperate to spend every waking moment with him — all of which are anything but appealing behaviors to guys. So, if you're someone who tends to become clingy and emotionally dependent on a man because you think it'll bring him closer and inspire him to stick around, know that you're actually just pushing him away. 

Moreover, men want to know that they complement your life as opposed to being the center of your universe on which your entire happiness level and sense of self-worth depend. Fortunately, there are steps you can take right now to break your cycle of neediness when it comes to men, such as putting an end to negative self-talk, getting out of your comfort zone, and learning how to resolve issues on your own.

While it's true that men are drawn to women who are outgoing and assertive individuals, it's important to recognize that there's a fine line between being independent and being unavailable. You may think that playing hard to get and acting in a distant and disengaged way can help you attract a guy, but you're making a mistake by not making time for him. In fact, playing games can make you seem highly immature and can give off the impression that you're not yet ready, willing, and/or interested in getting to know him on a deeper and more meaningful level. And while you may assume that acting detached and aloof increases your allure, you're actually coming across as uninterested, flaky, and just plain annoying. Playing hard to get is an easy way to strike out with a guy and appear unattractive.

A lot of marketing goes into making women feel like they need to buy a certain perfume in order to be sexy and desirable. Now that celebrities have entered the industry, the push has become even stronger — but does dabbing from a bottle really give us a boost?

Not according to science. Researchers have determined that a woman's natural scent can be a powerful aphrodisiac on its own, but there's a catch — she's most desirable when she's ovulating. During the study, men were given t-shirts worn by women who were ovulating and those who were not. The results showed that "men who sniffed t-shirts from ovulating women had higher testosterone levels than the men who sniffed T-shirts that didn't indicate fertility; either worn by non-ovulating women or unworn."

So, instead of masking your body's natural come-hither scents, let nature do all the talking.

Do you love to cook, read books, and take long walks on the beach? That's great and you absolutely have to make yourself happy, but if you are wondering about what guys find attractive, you might want to think a little more outside the box (while still being true to yourself, of course).

According to a study published by the Journal of Creative Behavior, researchers at the University of Pennsylvania polled 815 male undergraduates to determine which forms of creative outlet were the most sexually appealing. Things that were considered "hot" included playing sports, taking spontaneous road trips, performing in a band, and taking artistic photographs.

Essentially though, the underlying message here is that seeing people follow their passions and instincts is sexy, so trust your gut and let your heart lead the way!

When going out on a first date, many women put a lot of thought into what they pick from the menu. Inside, she might be craving a big, juicy burger, but, instead of ordering what she'd like to eat, she opts for a salad during a date. Maybe she wants to look like she takes good care of herself or she is genuinely is trying to lose weight. Maybe she's budget-conscious and doesn't want to pick the big-ticket item.

It's one thing if this is how you regularly eat and you are satisfied with your meal. It's another if you start picking fries from his plate or if you refuse to eat anything at all. Firstly, it doesn't seem like you're being authentic. Secondly, guys don't want you to order something you don't even want, only to end up eating half their meal! Plus, who wants to chow down alone? This is especially true since studies show that men tend to eat a little more when women are around!

In When Harry Met Sally, Harry tells Sally she is "the worst kind" of high maintenance. "You're high maintenance but you think you're low maintenance," he explains. When Sally says she doesn't see it, Harry recalls the particular way she orders at restaurants, telling her that getting items "on the side is a very big thing" for her. What Harry labels high maintenance, Sally (rightfully) says she just wants things the way she wants them. And what Harry means by a "high maintenance" woman matches up with Urban Dictionary's definition: A person who "has higher than normal expectations; has a greater requirement for affection or attention; has more needs and/or demands and therefore more difficult or challenging."

Elite Daily writer Robert Anthony wrote that a woman is high maintenance when she "is expensive," and he advised readers to avoid those women, As HuffPost highlighted, the catch-all term high maintenance has been "vilified by society." Is it really any wonder that men have become convinced that "high maintenance" equals unattractiveness? But that doesn't mean you should change. Armele Philpotts, a member of the British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy, told the publication that some men use the label to shift responsibilities and "label you as the problem." Spoiler: you're not the problem.

As evolutionary biologist Markus Rantala's explained to Science Nordic, facial attractiveness has a significant impact on overall attractiveness. So could a nose ring or a lip piercing play a role in impacting your attractiveness? As it turns out, yes. And the impact isn't exactly positive.

One study found that both women and men with piercings were rated as less physically attractive than those who did not have any piercings. Faces with multiple piercings were rated as even less attractive. While men are not fans of facial piercings on women, women actually dislike them on men even more. The study revealed that "men with piercings were rated more negatively than women with piercings." Despite neither men nor women being all that into facial piercings, the study revealed that participants who considered themselves open to experience- and sensation-seeking were at least more favorable toward facial piercings. If you're rocking some facial studs, you may have an easier time wooing an adventure-seeker, it seems.

We all know that being stressed out isn't good for us, but apparently it also makes us unattractive. Sigh. Even though you may think guys would have a hard time deciphering when you're feeling stressed, one comprehensive study proved otherwise. According to the research, the higher a woman's stress hormones, the lower attractiveness rating male participants gave her.

On the surface, it may not appear to make much sense. However, the study's lead author, evolutionary biologist Markus Rantala told Science Nordic, "This is actually quite logical, because we know that stress hormones inhibit the female sex hormone, and if the stress level is very high, it can make the woman infertile." As was the case with facial weight, it appears men consider a woman attractive based on her perceived fertility and health. What's a girl to do? "Our study shows that if a women wishes to look attractive," Rantala told the publication, "she should try to keep her stress levels down." Hmph.