Since so many celebrity couples have gone to counseling without success, it seems like it may not even be worth trying. If you want an outcome like Bell and Shepard, however, there is certainly hope in getting counseling together, Psychologist Jennifer Kunst explained to Psychology Today.
Dr. Kunst points out that a lot of the success or failure rates of couples therapy have several variables: who your therapist is, whether their methods are compatible with you and your partner, and how long you waited to go to counseling. Dr. Kunst explains, "Couples therapy is often at a great disadvantage because the couple has waited too long to get help. By the time they get help, their heels are stubbornly dug in; too much damage has been done. Also, couples therapy is often at a great disadvantage because each member of the couple overtly or covertly is there in order to get help for the other one. Therapy can't be of much help unless the each person is willing to work on him or herself."
Dr. Kunst recommends three key factors in couple's therapy, aside from getting an early start before problems fester for too long: Coming in with a genuine love for one's partner and a desire to better contribute to the relationship, to examine one's self and be dedicated to making changes in one's self and not to their partner, and to be "dedicated to working constructively in each session."