Benefits of having only one kid

Growing up in a family with three other siblings, I never had any inkling of what life might be like as an only child. I often look back and wonder how my parents raised four children. With the costs of childcare and education continually on the rise, along with couples starting families later in life, it is no surprise that more parents are stopping after one child. There is no relationship quite like that of siblings, but are there hidden benefits to being an only child? And is the stereotype that an only child will turn out spoiled actually true? After doing some research, I've discovered several benefits to raising one child, making a case for single child homes. Keep reading to find out why having one child may be the best decision you can make as a parent.

With the luxury of more money, parents can offer their only children more cultural and educational experiences. Dr. Toni Falbo, a researcher at the University of Texas studying only-children families, was interviewed by Vice on her findings. Regarding the availability of more opportunities, she said, "The achievement difference becomes more obvious as they [only children] get older. I think that's probably because if you have one kid then you can pay to send them to college, pay to get them into a master's program, and so on. Whereas if you have six or seven kids, you just don't have that much money, so it just leads to them not getting as much education." Beyond education, parents can also expose only children to more travel and culture. Only children may experience a more well-rounded education through these types of experiences than families with multiple children can offer.

Parents often struggle with the notion that their one child will be lonely without siblings around for companionship. The solitude is not necessarily a drawback, however. The child may actually become more creative and resourceful in entertaining themselves. Hanson shares this opinion in her Parents article: "Onlies are often creative and focused because they need to learn to entertain themselves. They'll build that cathedral out of blocks," Erika Karres, educational consultant and author of Make Your Kids Smarter, told the publication. Meanwhile, a mother of an 8-year-old pointed out that her son is comfortable with playing independently for hours at a time. So the idea that only children will be lonely or bored by themselves is not necessarily true. It can, in fact, lead to more creative play.

The advantages of having one child extend to the parents as well. With only one child, parents can pursue career aspirations and enjoy a lifestyle suited to their needs. With only one child to support, parents can explore other areas of life which may lead to more happiness. Kate Orson summed it up perfectly when she wrote on Parent.co that "a happy parent equals a happy child." She experienced her own sense of balance between parenting and her career with one child. She explains, "As a writer, I'd questioned whether I should have children in the first place. Would I find the time to write with multiple children to look after? A lot of my favorite writers solved that problem by having only one: Margaret Atwood, Siri Hustvedt, and Joan Didion, to name a few. They were my inspiration that writing and parenting could be combined."

Parents of one child have the opportunity to have a more well-rounded life. The childcare duties may be easier if there are two parents and only one child to look after. Parents can trade off, allowing each partner to receive free time to explore personal interests. Also, parents have more time to focus on their marriage as well.

If you decide to go one and done, Watson offers some tips on WebMD on raising only children. "Sign your child up for activities like band or soccer so he'll never lack for companionship," she writes. Other suggestions include allowing your child alone time to foster creativity, letting them pursue their own dreams (not yours), and including them in dinner conversations. Let go of the limiting stereotype that an only child is lonely and spoiled and instead embrace the idea that they, just like children with siblings, can grow up to be well-rounded individuals.