This is a tricky one. Many of us want not just a relationship, but a true partnership — so you want to be sure that you and your significant other are on equal footing. But where does the quest for equality stop and score keeping begin? Social Worker and Relationship Therapist Rhonda Milrad told me that while we all want a 50/50 relationship with our partner, "keeping track of what you have done, pointing it out to your partner, and noting when you feel that your partner is falling behind in their commitments are surefire ways to create conflict."
Instead, the experts at Psychology Today recommend working out a plan with your partner to determine who does what in the course of your daily life. This plan can include household chores, finances, child care, etc., and can also accommodate your individual preferences, schedules, strengths, and weaknesses. By establishing divisions of labor that both partners are comfortable with, you won't have to endure daily arguments or negotiations about who does what.
However, the folks at Psychology Today note that "should one of you deviate from the contract to which you've informally agreed, the question becomes whether the other partner can accept the occasional lapse." When one partner can't tolerate occasional extenuating circumstances, this indicates equally problematic issues such as rigidity and distrust. So, instead of keeping score, remember, "You may not always be taking as much as you give, but in the long run, it won't matter as much as your overall feelings of fulfillment."