When I was online dating, the first date usually led to disappointment, and it was hard not to get discouraged and feel down about myself. But in most cases, it's not worth it to take rejection personally. Dr. Kulaga told me, "If someone doesn't respond to a request you sent them or someone doesn't follow up after a first date, move on."
Not only does it feel bad to internalize every rejection, it can also keep you from meeting someone you click with. Dr. Kulaga continued, "If you sulk, ruminate and dwell on the fact that someone didn't come through on a follow up, this will hold you back from meeting the real Mr. or Ms. Right." She explained that ruminating can lower your confidence, preventing you from putting yourself back out there and meeting someone who is an even better match.
Celebrate your mismatches instead of getting upset about them. In Dr. Kulaga's words, "Be happy the person didn't come through and you didn't waste any more of your precious time. Move on." Instead of dwelling on rejections, spend your time remembering what's great about you. Krimer told me, "Going into the dating world knowing that you have a lot to offer can really buffer some of the potential effects of dates not working out and can help you not to personalize dating experiences that may be perceived as rejection."