In addition to asking the experts about the biggest parenting mistakes, I also found out what they thought you should do when raising kids. Weis told me her number one piece of advice: "Remember what kind of person you want your child to be 15 years from now."
Once you've done that, "Then ask yourself if what you are about to do or say (or have just said or done) is contributing to that vision. If not, it's time to rethink your approach. Give your child what he needs, not what feels easier or makes you feel better. Always keep the vision in mind."
Whitney suggested, "Name feelings — your child's, and your own. Kids learn emotional self-regulation from having it modeled for them and developing language that helps them understand their experiences. Hearing the names of feelings while they're having them helps them integrate their experience, which facilitates learning to tolerate emotion and control behavior."
Wondering what that looks like in real life? Whitney gave this example: "When your toddler has a meltdown in the grocery store, say something like 'I see you're frustrated because I won't buy you candy.' Or if he's grumpy, say 'I know you're disappointed that you didn't get to play with Jordan today.' You validate his feelings, give them a name, and stay calm, and in time he'll learn to do the same."