Red Flags Your Friends Are Actually Toxic
Lifestyle News
By ABHA AHAD
Boundaries
When a boundary is set, we expect others to respect and adhere to it, but if a friend cannot, chances are that they are toxic. When boundaries are broken, you have to take a stand, and if that doesn't change their behavior, you’ll have to decide if this is someone you want to continue to associate with.
Themselves
There could be times when one friend needs more support or care, but if your friend is solely concerned about themselves all the time, it is definitely a red flag. If you’re always the one to make the plans, give the support, or wonder if they even care, the friendship is likely not an equal one.
Peer Pressure
Peer pressure is when you feel pressured to do something that you normally would not do. Tell your friend how their behavior affects you, share and assert your boundaries, and eventually remove yourself from the environment if they do not change their ways.
On-Demand
Lending your support to a friend in need is emotional labor, and not everyone has this availability at all times, so a friend that expects attention on-demand might not be an accommodating person. If you are unavailable at the moment, convey that to them, and offer a later date to follow up.
Narcissism
If someone wants control or always seeks praise, there is a chance that they're narcissistic, and that is extremely challenging. Engage in positive self-talk and have a self-care routine, and understand that narcissists require professional help — if they are being abusive, officially sign out.