What Is 'Infla-Dating' (And How To Keep The Romance Alive On A Budget)

For many of us, the cost of living has never been more of an issue. Food prices, rent prices and oil prices are all going up. Inflation seems to be on a steady, never-ending rise. In the U.S., a staggering 67% of us are worried about our finances and our daily budgeting. Lots of us are trying to cut back on spending and save where we can — even on our dates. 

In fact, so many people are trying to cut back on expensive dates, the phenomenon has been given a name: "infla-dating." "Infla-dating is a strategy designed to keep your dating-related costs down during times of inflation," Jessica Alderson, Co-Founder & Relationship Expert at So Syncd, tells The List. "It involves being mindful of your spending and planning dates based on low-cost activities."

If you're feeling the pinch, it doesn't mean you have to give up on dating altogether. While it can feel like romance and money always go hand-in-hand, this couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, there are plenty of clever ways you can spend quality time with your partner while sticking to a budget. Many cheap dates are actually even better for your relationship than the expensive ones. We spoke to a few experts to find out the best ways to make infla-dating part of your life.

For years, alcohol has been a staple of most dates. In fact, according to a study by Alcohol.org, 865 of people have at least one drink during a first date. But even though alcohol is associated with dating, it's not actually an essential part of the romance — plus, it can add a surprisingly hefty sum to your bill at the end of the evening.

According to Lawless, skipping the alcohol on your dates doesn't just make for a cheaper evening — it also helps you have a better date, too. "Alcohol can be expensive and unhealthy, and skipping the drinks may also help your relationship by allowing you to focus on each other instead," she says. "It can allow you to pick up on your partner's non-verbal cues, such as body language, which can improve intimacy." Lawless also tells us that studies have shown that couples often report that alcohol use leads to conflicts in their relationships, so if you want to keep the romance alive, drinking less will probably help.

If you choose to skip the alcohol on your dates, you won't be alone. "There's a growing movement of daters who feel that they build stronger connections without alcohol, so they are forgoing it altogether," Alderson says.

Remember back in middle school when there was nothing more fun than a sleepover movie night with our friends? Recreate the magic of the childhood sleepover for your partner and surprise them with an at-home movie night. Decorate the room with fairy lights, build a cozy blanket fort, stock up on popcorn and pick a couple of your partner's favorite movies. This date will be way cheaper than a trip to the cinema and you and your partner will remember it for years to come.

"Going to the cinema can be expensive, but you can always organize an old-school sleepover-style movie night in your living room," notes Alderson. "This can be just as fun as a trip to the cinema, and it's much more cost-effective."

Lawless adds that this kind of cost-effective date can help to bring you and your partner closer together by adding a sense of adventure and surprise to your relationship. "Breaking out delicious snacks and making it memorable can feel like an adventure," she tells us. This is one cheap date you'll never forget.

Cheap dates don't always have to take place at home. There are plenty of ways you can get out of the house without spending a fortune. Keep an eye out for events taking place in your area that are free or cheap. For instance, many concert halls offer free lunchtime concerts. Some venues hold free comedy shows or music gigs. There might be an amusement park coming through town that offers cheap rides. A local museum might hold a free exhibit. Outdoor food markets are another free activity.

"You may well be surprised by the variety of free events available in your area, so keep an eye out for any opportunities," says Alderson. "It's a great way to explore your city or town too." Lawless adds that it's sometimes possible to watch outdoor festivals without purchasing a ticket. So get creative! 

Even though heading out on a shopping spree can be a super fun way to let off some stream and have fun as a couple, it can quickly become quite expensive. To itch that shopping bug, you could try changing up your routine and setting off for a vintage shopping spree instead.

"Go to a special vintage shop or visit garage sales," suggests Lawless. "It's a unique and affordable way to spend time together and a fun way to find new treasures. Doing so can strengthen your relationship and improve your ability to work together as a team. Finding unique treasures together can be fun and create positive memories and a sense of adventure in your relationship." Make it your mission to track down one or two special items — this way, you'll avoid overspending on too many things, while still getting that shopping buzz.

As Alderson puts it, "It's usually a lot more fun than just going to a regular store, and it can almost feel like a treasure hunt." Sounds like an ideal date to us.

If you and your partner have been together for a few years, you may be looking for some holiday ideas — but if you're trying to save some money, you may think that putting your holiday on hold is the only option. However, you could take a road trip as a cheap holiday alternative. Rent a camper van and sleep under the stars every night. Or, set off in your own car and spend your nights in cheap roadside motels. It can be a fun, adventurous change from more traditional vacations. Just be sure to plan your road trip carefully to avoid any arguments or disappointments.

"You can pick a destination that's within your budget and hit the open road," Alderson tells us. "It's bound to be an adventure you won't soon forget, and you'll make memories that will last for years to come.

Lawless suggests creating a special road trip playlist before setting off so that you can really enjoy the experience of blasting down the open road with your partner. "These small romantic gestures can enhance your intimacy and strengthen your relationship," she says. Even for couples who aren't on a budget, we have to say — this sounds like the idea trip.

If you love treating your partner to a date night at a local cocktail bar, you can recreate this special experience in your own home by investing in some cocktail tools, learning some basic mixology techniques, mixing a batch of your favorite cocktail, lighting some candles and serving your partner from a makeshift at-home bar. You can also whip out your at-home cocktails for a spontaneous tipsy afternoon in the backyard in the summertime. 

This romantic hack will be sure to save you some money in the long run. "Making a batch of your favorite cocktails at home can be a lot cheaper than going to the bar," says Alderson. "You can choose from a variety of recipes and even create unique concoctions of your own. It's a great way to have fun and get a little tipsy without breaking the bank." It sounds pretty great if you ask us!