Resetting Your Relationship Is Easier Than You Think

If you're noticing signs that your relationship might be in trouble or aren't feeling satisfied with your current situation, it might be time for a relationship reset.

If you're not sure what that is, it's a way to reflect on your relationship and see what needs to be changed or kept the same, essentially pressing reset on its current state. A relationship reset may sound scary, but it doesn't have to be. If done bit by bit, it can make your bond feel even more fulfilling and help you understand why things are or aren't working. One of the most important parts of a relationship is making sure you and your partner are on the same level, and a relationship reset can help to get you there.

You don't need to worry about the process being time-consuming or expensive, either. Like all things, a relationship reset will take time, but in the long run, it could make your connection with your partner stronger than ever. Here are a few simple ways to get started with resetting your relationship.

Sometimes looking at the bigger picture helps make things clearer

A great way to kick off the reset is to have a sit-down chat about what has happened in your relationship so far. Per The New York Times, therapist Christiana Ibilola Awosan recommends keeping your partner in the loop about how you are evolving as a person, as well as giving them space to share their own perspectives. This will ensure you're both on the right page going forward (or allow you to see whether your relationship is heading toward being over). This talk is also a good time to discuss "big picture" things like marriage, children, and your financial future. Talking about these topics may feel uncomfortable, but they are important in making sure your relationship continues harmoniously. 

Another excellent way to reset your relationship is to introduce a new weekly activity to your routine. This doesn't have to be anything extreme, but spending time together is key to maintaining a relationship — watching a movie weekly or cooking together could be the secret ingredient your relationship needs. The more you spend time together, the more you'll come to realize what you want from the relationship and your partner. 

Sometimes the smallest things can make a difference

It isn't just about doing things together and talking more, either. Licensed marriage therapist Don Cole told The New York Times that a key part of resetting your relationship is voicing your affection for your partner. If they make a particularly delicious dinner or make an effort with their outfit, let them know. This is especially important when it comes to children, too — if your partner is doing a fantastic job at being a parent, tell them. These small affirmations will help to build your partner's confidence and let them know you still love them, no matter how long you've been together.

Finally, make sure you're leaving time for yourself. You can't maintain or reset a relationship if you're completely burnt out and at a loss about where to start. Taking even just a few minutes each day to check in with yourself will help you feel like you're on top of everything.

These tips probably won't transform your relationship, but they will make it easier for you to figure out where you and your partner are in life and whether you can press the reset button.