Secret Things Men Do That Women Actually Find Attractive

Contrary to popular belief, men and women are from the same species. Yet, for whatever reason, there's a great deal of confusion on both parts on how to attract the other. There's plenty of information out there on what someone should do to get the girl at the end. We all know the basics: have a good sense of humor, be confident, actively listen, all that good stuff. There are still some things, though, that not even women might realize they find attractive in a partner.

That's not to say that there's some hidden puzzle that will unlock the secret to any woman's heart, no matter what some horribly misguided "pick-up artist" might tell you. That said, it's common sense that women are looking for someone who's a kind person and shows respect. The science here is just to give some insight into what the ladies in your life might be thinking every time you roll up your sleeves nonchalantly. Here are the secret things men do that women actually find attractive.

This just goes to show you some of the weird things your brain does without you knowing. A study done by the University of Rochester shows that women find men wearing red more attractive than those that don't. Andrew Elliot, the study's lead author and professor of psychology at the university, concluded that, "women view men in red as higher in status, more likely to make money and more likely to climb the social ladder. And it's this high-status judgment that leads to the attraction."

There are a lot of possible reasons why we may associate red with power or dominance. Some scientists theorize that it's because red is associated with aggressive behavior, due to the reddening of the face when a person is angry. Red was also an expensive dye throughout history, and was relegated to the wealthy and royal. Perhaps our cultural assumption is that red means wealthy. Whatever the reason, if you're a man, you might want to consider putting on a dash of scarlet for your next romantic venture.

There is nothing that will make you feel more awkward than a first date. So why not use that to your advantage? According to dating coach Sarah Jones, a little awkwardness can endear you to a woman. It's a way to show that you're attracted to her, which is always flattering. As Jones told the site The Good Men Project, "Now the story involves her, and she's more invested in you than if you were showing no apparent interest."

And if you're more than just a little awkward, that works too! Psychologist Ty Tashiro wrote a whole book touting the benefits of awkwardness, Awkward: The Science of Why We're Socially Awkward and Why That's Awesome. Tashiro explains that people who exhibit "awkward" behaviors see the world from a different perspective, which can be refreshing when getting to know someone. Even more encouragingly, Tashiro told the magazine Inc., "Kind people don't look down on awkward people. And awkward people can be interesting, bright, and motivated, and they can be loyal friends."

The days of Leave it to Beaver-style home-life have long passed. Men and women spend closer to equal amounts of time in the kitchen nowadays. However, it looks like women still get excited whenever they see their man at the stove. A team of British neuroscientists conducted an experiment of 20 couples (via Daily Mail), with the women watching their male partners partaking in various tasks. While having their physiological responses monitored, women were more aroused watching their men in the kitchen than they were when he was doing more stereotypical "male" work, such as cutting wood.

Cooking even outweighed other housework tasks like ironing or cleaning. Seventy percent of the women in the study preferred being made a cup of coffee to receiving gifts or an embrace. The power of a well-fed stomach should not be underestimated! As Dr. Nikki Goldstein, sexologist and relationship expert, told Daily Mail in response to the findings of the study: "Men can say 'I care about you, I love you' but when they make something tangible like a coffee, it shows them [women] they care."

If you thought the wearing red thing was weird, prepare to be in awe. Apparently, wearing a plain t-shirt with just a black letter "T" on the front makes you more attractive. To be specific, you're approximately twelve percent more attractive, according to research. Who, exactly, comes up with these studies anyway? On the plus side, you're going to be saving money on clothes.

Psychologist Dr. Andrew Dunn explained, "The wider barred 'T' seems to emphasize the upper chest when upright, which accentuates men's 'optimum' shape." That "optimum shape" is that upside-down triangle look you see on many a bodybuilder. The scientists found that a man with shoulders that were about 20 percent wider than his hips was most preferred. The important aspect is that accentuating the shoulders over the gut makes you appear more attractive. Anything that creates that top-heavy shape should suffice. If you really feel like being the weird dude wearing a giant "T," though, far be it from us to judge you. 

Miss Frizzle's sage advice to "take chances, make mistakes, and get messy" turned out to be a great dating tip. Women find men more attractive when they take heroic risks, according to various studies. Heroic is the key word here, as women do not prefer men who take non-heroic risks, such as playing dangerous sports. It's also very possible that bravery is more important than altruism when it comes to choosing a mate. This could explain why men with jobs as pilots, firefighters, and doctors are some of the most-swiped-right candidates on Tinder.

John Petraitis, psychology professor at the University of Alaska, further studied the effects when in conjunction with technology. He found that women found men more attractive when they would perform risky behavior in the wild, such as rock climbing in the back-country, but would not be attracted to risky behavior in a modern society, such as driving without a seat-belt. Petraitis suggests that this is evident of evolutionary practices, where behaviors that relate to a hunter-gatherer society are more attractive than those that aren't.

Are men really more attractive when sporting a uniform? Science says it all depends. As part of a study conducted by the University of Southampton (via Good Housekeeping), women were asked to rate the attractiveness of men in three heroic contexts: warfare, sports, and business. In the end, the participants were more likely to find a soldier good-looking, and, if he happened to win any bravery medals during his service, the women were more willing to date him. War heroes were also found to have "sired more offspring" than other veterans. According to the study, this supports a "causal link between war heroism and mating success."

That's not to say only military uniforms make women swoon. Men may not put as much effort into dress and grooming as do women, but clothing is still important because it speaks to their social status, biopsychologist Nigel Barber explained in an article for Psychology Today. He wrote, "Women who reject a man in a Burger King uniform might be willing to date someone in medical scrubs." That may explain why some men don their uniforms outside of work.