More Than 27% Of Women Say This Is The Biggest Turn-Off In A Partner

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People definitely have their own preferences when it comes to the people they date and begin relationships with. And while there will never be a "one size fits all" answer for dating, there are some characteristics and traits that most people find very attractive... or completely unattractive!


Magazines and publications love to survey their readers to find out what people are (and are not) into these days. For example, Muscle and Fitness asked 20 women what the biggest turn-off in a man is, and they definitely received a lot of solid responses.

One woman put complaining right at the top of her list. "A complainer," she said. "Can't think of anything I find more unattractive than someone who complains. Especially when they do nothing to fix the situation they are complaining about."

The List recently surveyed 574 of our own female readers to find out what women can't stand in a partner, and some of the answers were surprising!

What women say is the biggest turn-off

By and large, our readers put "doesn't listen" at the very top of their own turn-off list — 27.53 percent (158) of the women who responded checked this box first.

John Gray, author of the infamous dating book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, writes in the book that listening is really, really important in a relationship between a man and a woman. "When a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift. He makes it safe for her to express herself. The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs." As The New York Times noted in 2020, people in same-sex relationships are "more likely to listen to one another's point of view" than in heterosexual couples.


Our readers also provided a lot of great feedback on other traits and vices that are turn-offs. "Bad breath" clocked in at number two, with 22.3 percent of the votes, followed by "rude to waitstaff," "lazy," and "messy." Of course, plenty of the women who responded checked the "other" box and supplied their own unique contributions.

"All of these" was a popular choice for the women who selected "other."