Evidence Prince Harry's Relationship With Chelsy Davy Was More Heartbreaking Than We Realized

Prince Harry has long been a critic of the British media, but in the summer of 2023, the prince took his anti-tabloid position a step further. On June 6, Harry became the first member of the British royal family to take the stand in a civil trial in more than a century. This historic moment came as the prince, along with a hundred other high-profile figures, sued the media conglomerate, Mirror Group Newspapers (MGN), for allegedly accessing their private information through illegal means (like phone hacking). In a 55-page witness statement, Harry accused the organization of listening in on his voicemails in order to procure evidence for salacious news stories.

Notably, the prince's witness statement zeroes in on the way that he believes MGN's alleged reporting tactics impacted his relationship with his now ex-girlfriend, Chelsy Davy. According to Harry's legal documents, he first crossed paths with Chelsy in 2004. Despite the fact that Chelsy was from Zimbabwe and spent a considerable amount of time outside the U.K., she and Harry proceeded to date on and off for the next six years. In his witness statement, Harry recalled, "With Chelsy and I often living in different countries ... we relied on communicating by phone a lot" (via The New York Times).

Per Harry's claims, MGN exploited the long distance nature of Prince Harry and Chelsy Davy's relationship, parsing through the couple's private voicemails in search of gossip. Unfortunately, as Harry alleged, this invasion of privacy ultimately led to the couple's heartbreaking demise. 

Regardless of whether the British press actively tried to end things between Prince Harry and Chelsy Davy, it is true that the media added a lot of strain to the pair's relationship from the very beginning. Indeed, starting with Chelsy's initial visits to London, the Zimbabwean blonde was bombarded with an overwhelming amount of media attention. In his witness statement, Harry recalled, "I went to pick her up [from the airport] with my Personal Protection Officers ... I walked into the Arrivals Hall with a baseball cap on and immediately spotted five paparazzi sitting on benches with cameras in bags, their hands inside rucksacks and everyone else looking at me — I remember that someone was videoing me with one of those tiny little cameras between their legs" (via The New York Times).

As time went on, Harry claimed, the media harassment only grew worse. The prince even went so far as to allege that the press attention threatened Chelsy's bodily security. Writing in his witness statement, the Duke of Sussex shared that his ex-girlfriend's airport experiences came to follow an alarming pattern: "There would typically be five or six paparazzi literally running circles around Chelsy, so much that I couldn't even see her ... On occasion, the paparazzi would be so aggressive in their pursuit of her that we would have to enlist the help of the airport police."

As the media always seemed to know where Prince Harry and Chelsy Davy would be at any given time, the couple began to grow suspicious of everyone around them. Indeed, Harry and Chelsy began to wonder if their friends were spilling their secrets to the press. After all, British tabloids have been known to compensate informants with sizable monetary rewards, and it would not have been impossible for the couple's acquaintances to get in touch with interested journalists. Thus, Harry claimed, he and Chelsy began cutting their friends out, one by one.

In his witness statement, Harry reflected on this challenging time: "We could also never understand how private elements of our life together were finding their way into the tabloids, and so our circle of friends became smaller and smaller" (via The New York Times). Unfortunately, however, Harry said that he struggled to determine whom he could confide in. Per the prince's claims, this created a situation that was not ideal for his mental health. He wrote, "I remember finding it very hard to trust anyone, which led to bouts of depression and paranoia." Sadly, Harry hinted that the impact of this time haunts him to this day, stating, "Of course, now that we know that this information was invariably obtained by unlawful means, these friendships were lost entirely unnecessarily, which is a matter of huge regret for me."

The argument between Prince Harry and King Charles III was hardly the only private disagreement that became common knowledge. Harry and Chelsy Davy's spats also became known to the world, especially in 2007, when the prince was considering his military future. Recalling this time in his witness statement, Harry shared, "I really did hope I was going to be deployed in Iraq and I was on standby, along with the rest of my regiment. I felt like it was my calling, and I had trained for it, I wanted to be there with my men" (via The New York Times).

Perhaps unsurprisingly, Chelsy hardly shared Harry's enthusiasm for going to battle. The prince wrote that his then-girlfriend "was extremely worried, and we discussed it a lot." For all of Chelsy's concerns, however, Harry said, "There was no changing my mind. I was determined to serve." 

Unfortunately, however, these intimate conversations between Harry and Chelsy were exploited by the British tabloids. According to Harry's witness statement, "The People" published a piece that described his arguments with Chelsy in alarming detail. The Duke of Sussex explained, "The article reports on Chelsy's feelings about me going to serve in Iraq, stating she had 'begged [me] not to be a hero.'" In the end, Harry claimed, the media explosion surrounding his decision to serve interfered with his potential deployment. Thus, it was decided that the prince could not fight in Iraq. 

Because the British media zeroed in so intensely on Prince Harry's relationship with Chelsy Davys, the couple was potentially ill-fated from the start. Indeed, Harry and Chelsy had such a difficult time dealing with the scrutiny that the prince questioned if they ever had a chance of making things work. In his written statement, Harry reflected on the fact that he and Chelsy were never able to do the things that normal couples do without making a national headline, opining, "These kinds of articles [about our phone calls] made me feel as though my relationship with Chelsy was always set to be doomed. We couldn't even meet in private or have arguments over the telephone without the [Mirror Group Newspapers] somehow learning these details and publishing them for the whole country to see" (via The New York Times).

Ultimately, Harry and Chelsy came to feel that they did not share a private life. Instead, the ups and downs of their love story became so incredibly public that they could not even have a simple conversation without the press getting wind of it. Recalling what it was like to be under that degree of monitoring, Harry shared, "Again, it was just that feeling of being under surveillance all the time." Of course, their relationship did not survive these circumstances. As Harry explained, "these factors led her to make the decision that a royal life was not for her."

The press was obsessed with Prince Harry's private life, even after he and Chelsy Davy split up. When the pair called it quits, the media continued to write about Harry and Chelsy's attempts to move on. They stalked Chelsy as she started a new relationship, and they also monitored Harry as he tried to jump back into the dating pool. Of course, it didn't take Harry long to realize that he would confront the same level of media scrutiny, regardless of whom he went out with.

This dynamic was especially clear in 2009, when Harry was linked to actress Caroline Flack. Desperate to hide from the paparazzi, the pair decided to organize a low-key poker night at the private residence of Harry's friend, Mark Dryer. On their way out of the gathering, however, Harry and Caroline were surprised by a couple of cameramen. Years later, Harry recalled his feelings of betrayal in his written statement, "Two photographers from IKON pictures knew where we would be and were already there, waiting for us to arrive. They were hiding underneath a car" (via The New York Times). 

Sadly, this incident rekindled the feelings of mistrust that Harry had already experienced during his romance with Chelsy. Of the experience, the prince wrote, "I was angry. I hadn't told anybody. I obviously doubted Caroline, but I even came to mistrust Marko. My brother and I stopped talking to him for a while."