Tragic Details About Ben Stiller's Life

Ben Stiller didn't always want to be a comedian. While that may sound like a joke, given that the "Zoolander" star is such a natural at the craft, it was actually true for most of Ben's formative years. Appearing on "The Young Man and The Three" podcast in October 2025, the actor revealed that he was initially hesitant to dabble in comedy because he would be following in the footsteps of his famous parents, Jerry Stiller and Anne Meara. The beloved Hollywood personality apparently set his ambitions in stone during his childhood, as Ben recalled telling his parents that he wanted to focus on serious projects at the age of about eight. However, he soon realized that he couldn't run from his natural gifts and decided to simply embrace them instead. 

Although it was undoubtedly a step in the right direction, this choice wasn't without its caveats. Speaking to the New York Times in January 2025, Ben recalled how his presence in so many hit comedies throughout the early 2000s didn't sit well with some people, sharing, "I remember opening up The L.A. Times, and there was this writer who wrote a letter: Dear God, stop putting Ben Stiller in comedies. I was just like, I don't know, I'm here, I love doing what I do." With time, the "Meet the Parents" star gradually grew more confident about his work and started responding to the haters directly. In fact, he regularly took to X, formerly known as Twitter, to poke fun at the critics of "Severance." Ben similarly made the best out of the sadder aspects of his life too.

In Ben Stiller's 2025 documentary "Stiller & Meara," the actor opened up about how his mother's drinking strained his relationship with his father, Jerry Stiller, who is one of the many actors we sadly lost in 2020. Ben started his confession by acknowledging, "When [my mom] was drinking, my dad never really knew how to handle it," (via Parade). Eventually, Ben "resented" the "Seinfeld" star for pretending that Anne Meara's drinking was no big deal. With hindsight, though, the "Meet the Fockers" star realized that his dad's love for his mom and the couple's dedication to their comedy duo prevented them from really getting to the heart of the issue. 

With that in mind, Ben adopted a kinder perspective towards his father, admitting, "I think he was just trying to figure out how to navigate that and I got so angry at him for not being there for us but I don't even think I understood that for awhile." While the actor gathered material for the documentary, he discovered a video in which Jerry and Meara had a heart-to-heart about her drinking. 

During an October 2025 chat with CBS News, the director confirmed that the clip brought him solace because it helped Ben to see that his parents did indeed try to work on the issue. However, the strain on the "Tropic Thunder" star's relationship with his parents wasn't solely rooted in his mother's alcoholism. As Ben pointed out to the Times, his parents' devotion to their careers would sometimes leave little room for family time, leading the young man to gravely miss them.

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During a September 2023 appearance on the "Mayim Bialik's Breakdown" podcast, Ben Stiller revealed that Jerry Stiller and Anne Meara's demanding careers would frequently take them away from him and his older sister for weeks on end. While reflecting on his complex feelings from his childhood, the actor confessed to developing separation anxiety, elaborating, "I had some traumatic events that would happen when I was away from my [parents]. [...] It was scary to be alone."  Moreover, he acknowledged that Jerry and Meara's time away from home felt like an eternity when he was a child, adding, "There was a lot of anxiousness or fear of being alone." 

Although Ben tried tackling his separation anxiety in therapy, he still wasn't able to get to the root cause of his overattachment to his parents. When the "While We're Young" star was 10, his family tried to deal with their issues head-on by attending Erhard Seminars Training, which got incredibly intense for Ben in particular because it involved "being confronted with [his] issues by a person in a room with a lot of people." In his adulthood, the actor started experiencing anxiety in different ways too. 

Speaking on the New York Times' "The Interview" podcast, in January 2025, the Emmy nominee revealed that nerves had even gotten in the way of his short-lived "Saturday Night Live" stint. Ben ultimately had to bow out of the iconic sketch show after just four episodes because he didn't think he could thrive as a live performer, noting, "I got too nervous. I didn't enjoy it and I wanted to be making short films."

In "Stiller & Meara," Ben Stiller admitted that he was under the impression that he had successfully used the hurt his parents' absence had caused him in his own childhood as motivation to always prioritize his two children, Ella and Quinlin Stiller. However, he was disappointed to learn that that wasn't the case. In the documentary, Quinlin candidly told his father that a bad day at work would put him in a completely different headspace and completely derail their family fun time. Sadly, Ben's youngest also believed that his dad duties sometimes ended up at the very bottom of his priorities list depending on whatever else that was going on at the time. 

As the New York Times reported, the "Night at the Museum" star detailed his reaction to his son's candid confession at the New York Film Festival, remarking, "As a filmmaker I was like, OK, this is a good moment for the movie. As a person I was like: That sucks." Ironically, his thoughts only further underlined the struggle between fatherhood and his work. Notably, in the documentary, Ben Stiller and Christine Taylor's oldest daughter, Ella, also told him that she didn't have many memories of him being an active presence in her life during her younger years. 

With all this in mind, Ben delivered a candid confession of his own to the Times in October 2025, asserting, "I probably f***ed up more with my kids than my parents did with us." The voice actor also wasn't too proud to admit that he had been wrong in thinking that he should prioritize his work when his kids were young because they wouldn't remember much from those days anyway.

Despite a whirlwind romance that resulted in them getting married after just 18 months of courtship, Ben Stiller and Christine Taylor didn't end up having one of the shortest celebrity marriages around. In fact, over the next decade or so, the "Zoolander" co-stars appeared to be proving the negative connotations about fast-moving relationships wrong, as the happy couple welcomed two children and then watched them grow up to be stunning. As a result, the world was shocked when Stiller and Taylor announced they were separating after 17 years of marriage, in 2017. Thankfully, their love story had a happy plot twist as Stiller and Taylor officially got back together during the pandemic for a good reason. 

In "Stiller & Meara," the director opened up about why their long-standing relationship faltered in the first place, explaining, "I just felt out of balance and unhappy and kind of disconnected from my family, from my kids and just kind of a little bit lost," (via People). Elsewhere in the documentary, the Emmy nominee sadly described how their split dredged up so many complex emotions for him, sharing, "When we separated my feeling was like 'Oh, I'm failing at this' and look at my parents they have this incredible 50 plus year marriage and I can't live up to that," per People. Moreover, in his October 2025 interview with the Times, Stiller confirmed that the breakup had also created tension in his bond with his two children. Although a lot happened to Christine Taylor and her estranged husband during this difficult time, the fan favorite couple was ultimately better for it.

During an October 2016 appearance on "The Howard Stern Show," Ben Stiller announced that he had been diagnosed with prostate cancer when he was about 48. The "Severance" producer opened up about how it completely upturned his life, recalling, "At first, I didn't know what was going to happen. So, I was scared." He continued, "[...] It just stops everything in your life when you get a diagnosis of cancer because you can't plan for a movie. You can't make [commitments]." What made the scary diagnosis even more anxiety-inducing was the fact that Stiller's doctor delivered it to him with complete nonchalance and then started bombarding the actor with the potential side effects of treatment, which included impotence and incontinence. 

Speaking to the "Today" show, in November 2016, the "Dodgeball" star noted that he decided to follow his doctor's advice and get his prostate removed as his line of treatment. Thankfully, the surgery worked and the comedian was cancer-free. Stiller acknowledged that although the treatment did come with some side effects, they were a small price to pay for being alive. He also revealed that he had been diagnosed through the PSA blood test and urged other men to consult their healthcare professionals and see if they could benefit from getting regularly tested, too. 

Notably, in an October 2011 interview with the Hollywood Reporter, the multitalented performer confirmed that he had also been diagnosed with Lyme disease a few years prior. Although Stiller was glad that his treatment had successfully curbed his symptoms, he was still bothered by how the disease had made a permanent home in his system.