The Truth About Oprah Winfrey And Stedman's Relationship

The world seems to know everything about Oprah Winfrey, but fans seem to be even more intrigued when it comes to her partner, Stedman Graham. "I think people are fascinated with the relationship, because you haven't seen him," she admitted on her talk show. Most of the time, he's out of sight. Instead of spending time in the public eye, Graham prefers keeping his life more on the private side.

Why? Well, there's something about his sweetie, Winfrey. The cameras are constantly following her, her life is plastered across magazine covers, and, sometimes, tabloids like to stir up rumors about their relationship. After all, she's one of the wealthiest women in the world (via Forbes). Yet, these two stars have always seemed to make their relationship work. "We're like an old married couple," Winfrey admitted to People (via Yahoo! News).

This is the truth about Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham's relationship.

While Oprah Winfrey was slowly falling for a man named Stedman Graham, the people she surrounded herself with were not. At the time, her producers "warned me not to get involved with that Stedman guy," Winfrey admitted to O, The Oprah Magazine. The same year that this couple met was when Season 1 of The Oprah Winfrey Show first aired. Between Winfrey's newfound fame and Graham's good looks, her producers felt that he may be a "player," which Winfrey admits that she briefly suspected as well. Luckily, this wasn't the case.

Almost immediately upon dating Graham, the famed talk show host realized that he wasn't hiding anything at all. "People said when we first started going out that he was after my money or trying to get an acting job," she explained to the Chicago Tribune of the former sportswear model (via People). "And it was so disheartening because just the opposite was true."

The Oprah Winfrey Show skyrocketed Oprah Winfrey to success, and over the course of 25 seasons, Stedman Graham played a very supportive role. However, he did it mostly from home. "Stedman has only been to — in my entire career — I think three shows," Winfrey admitted during a behind-the-scenes video. "So for Stedman to come by a show, it must be, like — extraordinary things must be happening!" Yet, while he likes to keep his distance from the spotlight, during some of her toughest times on air, he's been on set with her.

He's been part of fun times, though, too. One year after they began dating, Graham surprised his sweetheart during an episode where viewers were calling in to ask the queen of television questions. "I don't know if you recognize my voice or not," he mentioned before continuing with his inquiry. Almost immediately, Winfrey smiled when she realized who it was. 

While Graham didn't appear much on her daytime talk show, whenever he did, it was a big deal. "You know it's big if Stedman's here," Winfrey said, and fans were fascinated each time he appeared.

Once their engagement news had been spread to everyone in the world, Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham planned to tie the knot in 1993. However, they never chose a specific day that year, and they didn't seem like they were in any rush. "We will announce happily when we're getting married when we decide, and not before," Graham announced during an episode of his fiancé's talk show. He was hopeful this would calm down the fans (via People). 

The year came and went, however, and the celebrity couple never ended up at the altar. While rumors began swirling about their romance, Winfrey decided to share her reservations. "I wanted to know he felt I was worthy of being his missus, but I didn't want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-day-out commitment required to make a marriage work," she admitted nearly 30 years later to O, The Oprah Magazine.

While Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham don't have children together, they did briefly debate it. Once they were engaged, Winfrey admitted to People that she "had bought an additional apartment because I was thinking, 'Well, if we get married, I'm going to need room for children.'"

However, after Winfrey gained success on her daytime talk show, their discussions about children started to dwindle. At work, "I realized, 'Whoa, I'm talking to a lot of messed-up people, and they are messed up because they had mothers and fathers who were not aware of how serious that job is,'" Winfrey said. Motherhood was not something she took lightly, and her time in the limelight made her realize raising children wasn't her calling.

Though Winfrey and Graham have said they'll never be parents, they're still able to act like ones. After opening the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls in South Africa, Winfrey has gotten to spend a lot of time with kids — many of whom have even come to live with her. "Those girls fill that maternal fold that I perhaps would have had," she admitted. "In fact, they overfill — I'm overflowed with maternal."

Even if they do happen to have a personal chef, Oprah Winfrey still likes to cook for her sweetie, Stedman Graham. "My favorite date night is to make him black eyed peas and cornbread as a surprise for dinner," she admitted on Twitter. Surprisingly, it's something she enjoys doing quite often.

Luckily for Winfrey, her lover appreciates a good home-cooked meal — but only when it's made by Winfrey herself. "Chefs don't have anything on her," he even said in an interview on her website. Graham doesn't happen to be a picky eater either, so anything goes as long as his lady is cooking.

Over the years, Winfrey has even concocted her own original recipe for him, which they lovingly call "the Love Sandwich." However, this entreé isn't only saved for themselves. "I've only made it for a couple of other people," Winfrey said. "So if you've had me make the Love Sandwich for you, you have to be somebody I really care about." After all, the main ingredient is love!

Oprah Winfrey has admitted again and again that she won't be running for president anytime soon. It turns out there was someone just behind-the-scenes who was egging her on. Her partner, Stedman Graham, has been the one encouraging her to run for office.

Way back in 1987, only a year after the two started dating, Winfrey admitted to ET that he was the one who wanted to make it happen. "He says to me all the time, 'Look, I want you to be president,'" she explained, and he's even volunteered to help run her campaign.

Even from the get-go, Graham has never been intimidated by the amount of success — and the spotlight — that has always followed Winfrey around. "I want her to be the best that she can possibly be," he admitted in an interview with Ellen DeGeneres. "And she's done a pretty good job of doing it." We would have to agree!

There's a reason why Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham have made their romance last, as of this writing, for more than 35 years. "I happen to be with a man who has always appreciated the fact that I was ... considered a powerful person," Winfrey told E! News. "[He's] not trying to crowd in on it, not competing with it. He knows how to hold his own."

Since the two travel quite often, they've had to learn how to keep their love alive while being millions of miles apart. They've made it look easy, too. The "secret" is that their relationship has never been what defines them. Instead, they have their own aspirations. That's been important for someone as low-key as Graham, who is often referred to as "Oprah's man." However, "that's who she is," he shared in a behind-the-scenes video at her talk show. "It doesn't have anything to do with how I define myself."

The fame and fortune has never gotten to Graham's head. He's just someone who's happened to find the perfect partner for himself. And, like Oprah, we love him for it.