What Not To Say At A Bachelorette Party

Bachelorette parties are all about the bride-to-be celebrating her last bits of freedom before getting married. Naturally, the night, or weekend — if it's a destination bachelorette celebration — should be focused on the bride. That means making sure she has a good time and feels supported.

Whether the party is a restorative beach getaway, a tasty wine tour, a soothing day at the spa, or a raunchy night at a club complete with strippers is up to the bride, and she should be consulted first to ensure it is what she wants (via Bustle). You don't want the bride to be sorely disappointed with the choice of activity. A loud party with exotic dancers when all she really wanted was some relaxing downtime with the girls, and vice versa, could be a disaster.

Typically, the maid of honor takes care of the planning but the whole bridal party may be involved, Martha Stewart noted. It's also up to the bridal party to make sure that things go smoothly and guests don't get out of hand. Yet weddings are known for bringing out some bad behavior and alcohol can cause loose lips. Yet there are just some things you should never say at a bachelorette party.

Steer clear of talk about the ex and others

The first and only thing to remember at a bachelorette party is that you are there to celebrate the bride, period. So everything you do and say should embody that good intention. That translates into not talking about her awful ex-boyfriend (via WeddingWire). 

It's bad at any time but especially if her heart was broken over him. No "look what he's missing" because that will force her to think about him instead of her new life. No comparisons to her current fiance either, even if said in jest.

It's also not a good idea to tell the bride to do anything that makes her feel uncomfortable, including strippers or flirting with others. Don't tell her that she should go dance or hook up with some cute guy. Not only may that go well beyond her boundaries and be considered cheating but it will put her in an uneasy situation, and in a worst-case scenario may even jeopardize her upcoming marriage.

Keep the focus on the bride

Naturally, you'll want to remain civil to all attendees, so don't tell the bride you wish so and so wasn't there, or share that you dislike her maid of honor. Keep any drama with any fellow attendees out of the party.

Another thing better left unsaid is your sad love story. You don't want to be the jealous bridesmaid, as Glamour reported. Don't bring negative energy to the party. The focus should be on the bride, and no one else. It's a day to make good memories, not sit and stew in your own heartache.

Remember, drinking can cause you to be more open than you would have liked, so keep a tab on your alcohol consumption. You don't want to reveal how much you didn't want to be in the bridal party or can't afford the cost of being a bridesmaid or maid of honor. After all, if you didn't want to be in it, you should have politely declined (via The New York Times).

Finally, the last thing you want to do is make known how you hate the bridesmaid dress or even worse, her wedding dress. If in doubt about whether you should share something, just remember that old saying, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all," has lasted for a reason.